It's Officially - How NOT To Plan A Wedding

nbcrusader · 03-19-2004, 05:19 PM

Just got a wedding invitation from one on my employees. This is a 27-year old guy marrying a 19-year old gal (who he has known for less than 6 months).

He's talked for weeks about the wedding and the reception on a nice boat. Then he started talking about a SECOND reception, this one miles away. Turns out he invited all the office people to the second reception, which is fine.

The kicker is this - inside the invitation were two cards informing us where he is registered (Macy's and Target). I just checked out the registry on-line. He registered for 123 separate items at Target. Everything from a nice 32" television and digital video camera to DVD's to laundry soap.

At Macy's, everything is top shelf ($$$$). Just about everything he is asking for is nicer than what I have at home.

Is it me, or has he lost all sense of perspective?

BAW · 03-19-2004, 05:52 PM

123 items???? I would buy them the laundry soap!

Ugh...I can't believe some of things I've seen on wedding registries in the last few years. I was always under the impression that a wedding gift was supposed to be something the couple needed to set up their home...linens, kitchenware, china, etc. We had a relative who asked for a Playstation 2 and camping equipment

fah · 03-19-2004, 06:12 PM

I have mixed feelings about advertising where you are registered. On one hand I feel it is a complete cash/gift grab but on the other I appreciate getting the info up front especially if it is for an out of town wedding or for someone I'm not going to see before the wedding. It's important to remember that you are not under any obligation to supply a huge gift the happy couple. I also feel that as a couple they are entitled to ask for whatever they want. Camping equipment wouldn't have been my first choice but for many I'm sure they would rather get a Coleman stove than a silver cake server. It all depends of what sort of lifestyle they have and also, have they been living together or married before.

One of my best friends gave me a really great idea for wedding gift and it actually came from the bride and groom. The happy couple had been living together for 'a while' and had both been in previous relationships with kids. They felt that the best way for their friends to honour them was that instead of asking for gifts, they asked their friends to make donations to their favourite charities.

nbcrusader · 03-19-2004, 06:36 PM

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Originally posted by Bono's American Wife
123 items???? I would buy them the laundry soap!

Ugh...I can't believe some of things I've seen on wedding registries in the last few years. I was always under the impression that a wedding gift was supposed to be something the couple needed to set up their home...linens, kitchenware, china, etc. We had a relative who asked for a Playstation 2 and camping equipment

Yeah, a full assortment of camping equipment was on the list as well. Oh, I forgot, it was a digital camera and a digital video camera.

Scary, I just noticed the baby clothes on the list. I know they will have a child within 1 year, but I doubt they started this fast.

beli · 03-19-2004, 06:58 PM

I had a wedding list - power drill, directors chairs, etc. We were trying to avoid ending up with 64 white platters. Most of our friends liked the list, they didnt have to think, just bought something and knew we would like it. Most of my friends got married around the same time so we all had lists at the same store.

My husbands relatives ignored the list and bought stuff they thought of - ie F$%^ing white platters. Not that Im ungrateful. I just think if people are going to spend their money it shouldnt be wasted on objects shoved under the oven gathering dust.

As for the expensive items, we were instructed by the store to have some expensive items on the list in case a few people wanted to chip into gether. As long as theres a good selection of things from $10 up most people should be able to find something in their price bracket.

ie I think they are a good thing.

shari schultz · 03-19-2004, 06:59 PM

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Originally posted by nbcrusader
Just got a wedding invitation from one on my employees. This is a 27-year old guy marrying a 19-year old gal (who he has known for less than 6 months).

He's talked for weeks about the wedding and the reception on a nice boat. Then he started talking about a SECOND reception, this one miles away. Turns out he invited all the office people to the second reception, which is fine.

The kicker is this - inside the invitation were two cards informing us where he is registered (Macy's and Target). I just checked out the registry on-line. He registered for 123 separate items at Target. Everything from a nice 32" television and digital video camera to DVD's to laundry soap.

At Macy's, everything is top shelf ($$$$). Just about everything he is asking for is nicer than what I have at home.

Is it me, or has he lost all sense of perspective?

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At Macy's, everything is top shelf($$$$)

What is Macy's Bridal Registry return policy? I work for a department store in a Bridal Registry area and I have had people tell me that they are registering for top of the line stuff just to be able to return it all and get cash. Tacky, tacky, tacky.
Yes, we are still giving cash back for Bridal Registry returns

Call me cynical, but is it a possibilty?

verte76 · 03-19-2004, 07:09 PM

These people don't seem to have much sense. Macy's????

beli · 03-19-2004, 07:13 PM

I dont know what Macys is? Is it really posh or sumfin?

nbcrusader · 03-19-2004, 07:17 PM

Macy's is a higher end department store.

Let's just say I'm not getting them the titanium cookware....

beli · 03-19-2004, 07:25 PM

Oh, thanks. We have Myers here which is a middle range department store. Thats where just about everybody does their bridal registry.

Another feature of a bridal registry is that the pressies are delivered to your house after the honeymoon ie you dont have to spend your wedding night lugging back the pressies, trying to take your wedding clobber off, AND getting ready to go to the airport.

Im really for em. The only exception is pressies from arty friends. I would much prefer a home-made-with-love thingie than a titanium saucepan.

beli · 03-19-2004, 07:31 PM

Actually I was just thinking about pressies in general. There is a divide on this issue. eg Xmas pressies. Some people purchase everyone in their family a pressie. Some give only to the children 'as they enjoy Xmas the most'. And others, like my family, draw a name out of a hat and spend $50 on that one person. We usually find out who drew our name and drop huge hints, which is not only acceptable but encouraged. The standard joke in my family is if you dont tell your name giver what you want you will get a mixed basket from the Body Shop.

Not very romantic but democratic. Were all happy. Xmas shopping is very low stress as theres only one pressie to purchase (on my side of the family anyway) No white platters on us.

ILuvLarryMullen · 03-19-2004, 07:33 PM

NBC re-read your first sentence, and tell me why you are surprised about their registry

.

I agree that it's very tacky to ask for things like electronics and just plain weird to ask for laundry soap. Could you image wrapping laundry soap in wedding paper? And imagine having to bring that up to the register and having to tell the cashier that it was on gift registry

. My cousin's ex-wife put like a thousand picture frames on their registry and they already had a bunch of frames in the apartment and most of them had pictures of her by herself in them

. She was a REAL winner.

beli · 03-19-2004, 07:40 PM

At least laundry soap is useful. White platters are not. (IMHO). I would have prefered to receive one box of laundry soap instead of 4 white platters.

theSoulfulMofo · 03-19-2004, 07:53 PM

I'd be lucky to get invited to my own wedding, because the girl, whom I pine after, would probably choose to marry someone else.

edited for context.

beli · 03-19-2004, 08:01 PM

Why are there so many single men in here? (interference). I wish this place was around when I was single. Would have saved me from hanging around at the Quasar tournaments every Sunday afternoon to met boys

03-19-2004, 05:19 PM	#1
nbcrusader Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 21,843 Local Time: 05:41 AM	It's Officially - How NOT To Plan A Wedding Just got a wedding invitation from one on my employees. This is a 27-year old guy marrying a 19-year old gal (who he has known for less than 6 months). He's talked for weeks about the wedding and the reception on a nice boat. Then he started talking about a SECOND reception, this one miles away. Turns out he invited all the office people to the second reception, which is fine. The kicker is this - inside the invitation were two cards informing us where he is registered (Macy's and Target). I just checked out the registry on-line. He registered for *123* separate items at Target. Everything from a nice 32" television and digital video camera to DVD's to laundry soap. At Macy's, everything is top shelf ($$$$). Just about everything he is asking for is nicer than what I have at home. Is it me, or has he lost all sense of perspective?

03-19-2004, 06:12 PM	#3
fah Blue Crack Addict Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In my house with the rest of fahs Posts: 20,101 Local Time: 05:41 AM	I have mixed feelings about advertising where you are registered. On one hand I feel it is a complete cash/gift grab but on the other I appreciate getting the info up front especially if it is for an out of town wedding or for someone I'm not going to see before the wedding. It's important to remember that you are not under any obligation to supply a huge gift the happy couple. I also feel that as a couple they are entitled to ask for whatever they want. Camping equipment wouldn't have been my first choice but for many I'm sure they would rather get a Coleman stove than a silver cake server. It all depends of what sort of lifestyle they have and also, have they been living together or married before. One of my best friends gave me a really great idea for wedding gift and it actually came from the bride and groom. The happy couple had been living together for 'a while' and had both been in previous relationships with kids. They felt that the best way for their friends to honour them was that instead of asking for gifts, they asked their friends to make donations to their favourite charities. __________________ Out of my brain on the 5:15

03-19-2004, 07:09 PM	#7
verte76 Yes We Can! Premium Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: hoping for changes Posts: 23,333 Local Time: 12:41 PM	These people don't seem to have much sense. Macy's???? __________________ I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character. -Martin Luther King

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theSoulfulMofo Rock n' Roll Doggie Band-aid Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 4,490 Local Time: 04:41 AM	I'd be lucky to get invited to my own wedding, because the girl, whom I pine after, would probably choose to marry someone else. edited for context. Last edited by theSoulfulMofo; 03-19-2004 at 08:39 PM.

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03-19-2004, 05:52 PM	#2
BAW The Flower Premium Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: The OC Posts: 10,569 Local Time: 05:41 AM	123 items???? I would buy them the laundry soap! Ugh...I can't believe some of things I've seen on wedding registries in the last few years. I was always under the impression that a wedding gift was supposed to be something the couple needed to set up their home...linens, kitchenware, china, etc. We had a relative who asked for a Playstation 2 and camping equipment

03-19-2004, 06:58 PM	#5
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	I had a wedding list - power drill, directors chairs, etc. We were trying to avoid ending up with 64 white platters. Most of our friends liked the list, they didnt have to think, just bought something and knew we would like it. Most of my friends got married around the same time so we all had lists at the same store. My husbands relatives ignored the list and bought stuff they thought of - ie F$%^ing white platters. Not that Im ungrateful. I just think if people are going to spend their money it shouldnt be wasted on objects shoved under the oven gathering dust. As for the expensive items, we were instructed by the store to have some expensive items on the list in case a few people wanted to chip into gether. As long as theres a good selection of things from $10 up most people should be able to find something in their price bracket. ie I think they are a good thing.

03-19-2004, 07:13 PM	#8
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	I dont know what Macys is? Is it really posh or sumfin?

03-19-2004, 07:17 PM	#9
nbcrusader Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Southern California Posts: 21,843 Local Time: 05:41 AM	Macy's is a higher end department store. Let's just say I'm not getting them the titanium cookware....

03-19-2004, 07:25 PM	#10
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	Oh, thanks. We have Myers here which is a middle range department store. Thats where just about everybody does their bridal registry. Another feature of a bridal registry is that the pressies are delivered to your house after the honeymoon ie you dont have to spend your wedding night lugging back the pressies, trying to take your wedding clobber off, AND getting ready to go to the airport. Im really for em. The only exception is pressies from arty friends. I would much prefer a home-made-with-love thingie than a titanium saucepan.

03-19-2004, 07:31 PM	#11
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	Actually I was just thinking about pressies in general. There is a divide on this issue. eg Xmas pressies. Some people purchase everyone in their family a pressie. Some give only to the children 'as they enjoy Xmas the most'. And others, like my family, draw a name out of a hat and spend $50 on that one person. We usually find out who drew our name and drop huge hints, which is not only acceptable but encouraged. The standard joke in my family is if you dont tell your name giver what you want you will get a mixed basket from the Body Shop. Not very romantic but democratic. Were all happy. Xmas shopping is very low stress as theres only one pressie to purchase (on my side of the family anyway) No white platters on us.

03-19-2004, 07:33 PM	#12
ILuvLarryMullen Rock n' Roll Doggie ALL ACCESS Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: in the sunshine Posts: 6,904 Local Time: 05:41 AM	NBC re-read your first sentence, and tell me why you are surprised about their registry . I agree that it's very tacky to ask for things like electronics and just plain weird to ask for laundry soap. Could you image wrapping laundry soap in wedding paper? And imagine having to bring that up to the register and having to tell the cashier that it was on gift registry . My cousin's ex-wife put like a thousand picture frames on their registry and they already had a bunch of frames in the apartment and most of them had pictures of her by herself in them . She was a REAL winner.

03-19-2004, 07:40 PM	#13
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	At least laundry soap is useful. White platters are not. (IMHO). I would have prefered to receive one box of laundry soap instead of 4 white platters.

03-19-2004, 08:01 PM	#15
beli Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In a frock in Western Australia Posts: 15,212 Local Time: 08:41 PM	Why are there so many single men in here? (interference). I wish this place was around when I was single. Would have saved me from hanging around at the Quasar tournaments every Sunday afternoon to met boys